Hi, I’m Maryam Webster. Yep, that’s my real name, and here are some important facts to help you understand real quickly, who I am and why I do what I do: Teaching myself to walk again after being hit by a drunk driver and almost a decade recovering from a broken back and paraplegia (with doctors predicting permanent paralysis), plus losing over 125 pounds gained while bedridden (and still going!), are only two of the many ways I have “done the impossibleâ€ in my life.
I quite literally, walk my talk
Here’s what my clients will tell you about me, from actual testimonials: I am kind and supportive, but I have no time for bullshit. I’m a straight-shooter in the transformationsÂ I elicit from deep within you, and you can always depend on me to tell it like it is and share every last tool in my toolkit if it will help – I don’t hold anything back, you get it all.Â I’ve exceeded all rational expectations of those who can’t see how a goal can be met so many times, that I have come to specialize in “doing the impossible” for both my clients and myself.
AND…I will always make you right, find the reasons why it’s not working for you…and bust them to free you to do what you were born for. How do we do that?
I don’t accept the “you can’t, you’ll never…” thatÂ others with limited
viewpoints would like toÂ assign as my reality, and neither should you.
When I was healing from the paralysis and broken back painÂ Â in recovery during my thirties, it took me an eternity of nine years to regain full mobility. Doctors told me I would never walk again. I told them to go to hell and showed them my middle finger. Then I taught myself to walk again.
I hated having constant pain and symptoms. And until I figured it out, I hated even worse my inability at the time to deal with them for good. Yet, this period gave me some of the most powerful symptom banishing and personal change tools in my toolkit.
After twenty odd years as a psychotherapist, I found that the energy therapies I learned to relieve my pain and recover mobility were more powerful personal change-makers than the standard psychology techniquesÂ I had been practicing. Seeking a way to help people transform their lives both quickly and permanently, I createdÂ a new form that did just that. Energy Coaching merges psychotherapy, coaching and bioenergetic modification methods with shamanic healing tools from my lifetime practice of earth honoring spiritual traditions.
And then…the Midlife Shift began. That Third Shift of a woman’s life, where nothing is ever the same again.
I didn’t see it as the true Gift it is yet, not then when I was 46. I’d just gotten my body back. I wanted to have fun! And then all of a sudden…weird stuff was happening to both my body AND mind AND relationships AND…just about everything else.
One of my clients nailed it when she said that ageing is like playing “whack a mole” with new symptoms in all areas of her life, popping up all the time.
Just as soon as you get one symptom dealt with, two more pop up to take its place.
Suddenly, you just want to call the game on account of rain and go home. Tired like most of us are of looking for help, I asked doctors what to do. But all the doctors I saw kept telling me
“Get over it, it’s just menopause. You’re just that age, you have to expect this kind of thing.”
And that pissed me off something fierce.
Quite apart from the medical people who were supposed to help, trivializing my concerns, here I was – a respected energy psychologist and author of the book on Everyday Bliss, with a reputation for developing fast-acting healing processes -Â and I couldn’t even help myself!
I would be completely laid out by a hot flash, end up red-faced, ripping off clothes in a Very Public Place. Or talking to a colleague and suddenly forgetting the name of the healing method she developed, or her eldest child’s name or something else important. (and was my face red then, too)
That was beforeÂ I discovered a few of the keys I was missing to getting rid of the symptoms I disliked forever.
And then…the Dalai Lama spoke.
One day in 2010 during the Vancouver Peace Summit, the internet was suddenly flooded with the meme poster that showed the Dalai Lama saying “I am a Feminist.” and “Western Women will Save the World”. He was surrounded at the Peace Summit by women whose charitable and peacekeeping efforts were Nobel prize worthy, so his observation is no surprise, but every single one of them was over the age of forty-five.
Hearing His Holiness say that stunned Western women, even those of us who viewed ourselves as feminists. And for me, his words infused my life with a new sense of urgency.
The Western world is one where women have made enormous progress towards equality and already have the opportunity to help others on a global scale.
But we can’t do that, I thought, if we’re bound up in these symptoms, funky relationships, brain fog and the like. This filled me with a sense of purpose.
I re-dedicated myself to getting women’s midlife issuesÂ dealt with and launching them into fulfilling second adulthoods.
The women I work with leave dead-end jobs making somebody else money and start their own businesses that help, heal and change the world, just like the Dalai Lama predicted. They leave corporate America, uproot their kids and move from the ‘burbs to the forest and start healingÂ businesses that make their hearts sing. They start charities or join them and make a difference in the world. That’s real important.
The Second Phase of your life is about about making a difference. Now that the kids are grown, now that you have the capital built up, now that you have all the experience and learning to know you really don’t want to do that, but would rather do this…and the “this” is always about helping people, or healing the world in some way. Once you really get what you want to do to make your life truly count, it’s all butter, baby, butter. Â 🙂
Who The Heck am I to be Telling You Anything?
Well, I have multiple masters degrees in education, clinical and counseling psychology, industrial psychology and advanced human energy re-programming. I also spentÂ thirtyÂ years as a psychotherapist working with a variety of clients and almost forty as a shamanic healer and trance practitioner.
I’ve been deeply trained and have a lifetime’s experience as a health advocate and deep-change artist, seen the gamut of behavior people want to change, and have made it my life’s work to find the fastest, most deeply effective methods for people to make those changes easily.
I’m not only a researcher into motivation and success, but a transformative process creator and have created both comprehensive consciousness changing processes, like my ETHOS Method, but use the dozens of tools I have to hand to custom-craft the kind of symptoms relief and life change you want and deserve.
And most importantly, I’ve learned to consistently succeed where the odds have been a thousand to one against me, and I put that knowledge to work helping you do the same. “Impossible” things like I mentioned above –
- Healing a broken back and years of paralysis to walk, dance and be fully functional again (read that story here)
- Ditching the excruciating pain that was keeping me literally bedridden and out of the flow of life.
- Losing over 125 pounds that I’d gained while lying in bed, and keeping it off easily for years,
- Never getting sick, and being able to cure myself of things like food poisoning quickly
- Getting a book published in a recession year publishers weren’t signing new authors
…things like that.
In the process, I’ve learned a lot of extremely cool tools to roto-rooter through stubborn mental blockages, self-sabotage andÂ “yeah-buts”, plus even kick excruciating daily pain to the curb, permanently. I even learned how to change my own personal history and re-code former failures into stupendous successes.
Still have questions? Here’s Why You Want To Work With Me
Simply put, you don’t have time to waste. You need to get past your symptoms and crappy job or funky relationship/s right now, and you want to work with someone who has been to the mountain top and the depths of hell, come through it, thrived and knows the best ways to get you through it safely and happily.
I’ve created a program that shortcuts a lot of the learning and gets you relief fast, permanently in most cases, with tools you can use even when issues crop up at 3 in the morning.
PluÂ #1,Â you can teach these tools to your kids, family, friends, and everyone benefits.
Plus #2, you also want to work with someone like me, who has deep experience creating transformative processes on the fly.
That’s what we do in each and every session, because…
Has “The Cliffhanger” ever happened to you?
You’re tooling along in a coaching, therapy or other professional brainstorming session and and suddenly come up short, stopped by a limiting belief, personal blockage or something else that needs to be dealt with Right. Now. But your coach/therapist/change agent is either watching the clock or simply doesn’t have the skills to help you in the moment. And they leave you hanging…with a cheery “We’ll pick this up next week”.
Well, isn’t that just special?
It’s happened to me, so I know how it feels. It’s also happened to clients who end up on my doorstep because they want to get the “cliffhanger” dealt with once and for all. Instead of saying “see you next week, that’s all we have time for”, I’ll custom craft a unique and tailor-made solution for what you’re facing right there, in the session that uses your unique strengths and innate talents. It will also be something you can easily duplicate at home and because it’s built on what you naturally do best, it will be easy as pie to implement when you’re really in need of help.
I’ll never let you leave half-done, upset or out of phase. You’ll be goodÂ to go by the time we end session, each and everyÂ time.
That’s a promise!
Trying to get to a “total turnaround” and just don’t know how to? I’ve got your back.
Facing the abyss where you’ve no alternative but to change or die trying? That’s a scary, lonely place, but you are NOT alone. I’ve re-created myself many times, transforming the pain and debility of a broken back and paralysis, a miserable marriage to an alcoholic, growing and selling three successful businesses, both parents deaths, losing over a hundred pounds, andÂ business retooling.It’s left me with a lot of tools and processes to get you where you want to be, smarter and faster.
If Symptom Relief and Reinvention is what you need, want and crave…
I’ll help you to successfully transform your challenges into a joyous New You.