Again, here’s another meme posted I created for you. It teaches an important lesson. Feel free to share it widely.
And The Point:
What if everything that everyone told you all your life is wrong about you, and used to shame you and tell you you didn’t belong, is actually what is RIGHT about you? That is rare, precious and gobsmackingly leveragable about who you have been, are now and have become?
What if every hard, bad, scared time, and the spaces of sadness and craziness you marinated in became a deep well of wisdom and resources for you to draw upon, that made you infinitely richer than those who have lived boring, mundane, never-crazy lives?
What infinite possibilities could you be, do and have then?
What are the infinite possibilities that you’re really okay…just as you are?
I think about myself and my love of solitude and quiet. Reading books, not always electronic devices, and being a wordsmith, capitvated by the meanings of words, their origins and related errata. Of how I love process, the way people use words and how I’ve learned to use that love of words to deconstruct fears, irrational beliefs and instill super powers in myself and my clients.
I’ve spent hours researching the linguistic and etymological origins of a single word or word-family. And I enjoy it, without shame. But it was not always so…
When I was in school, I got made fun of for being academically inclined and dressing for comfort, not fashion. I wasn’t fashionable because I cared more about reading psychological theory or learning foreign languages than the latest bags and dresses. That’s enough to get you ostracized to the next state in high school. Other kids were made fun of for being electronic geeks, or for loving to knit, hike, or read philosophy.
The philosophy geek is now many-times published and a respected professor. The electronics nerds all run successful Silicon Valley companies – one is now an angel investor. The girl who was crazy for knitting owns her own upscale handwovens boutique with franchises in several states. I’m a multiply published author, trainer and respected process developer in the energy psychology field. We are all successful by any definition today.
As I’ve interviewed friends and clients about this, I’ve found that it took us all a long time to make peace with the fact that we are really okay, just as we are. And that the things we did that earned us the “geek” label back when it was a bad word, are what made us who we are today. Along with continuing to do what gives us bliss, and understanding that nay-sayers were saying more about their own negative self-perceptions, than about us. Anyone who feels they have to cut someone else down does so because they feel very insecure inside.
It wasn’t about me, it was about them. And I don’t need to follow a crowd to be happy.
This was one of the most powerful realizations I’ve ever had.
That the need to be quiet and meditate while others were noisy and partying, the need to read books while others were playing video games and going out drinking, to believe in myself while others put their faith in society or their peer group to define them – was not wrong.
Not only was it right, it was leveragable, has made me friends, money, forwarded my career, helped me have only the right people in my life, make amazing connections I could have made no other way, and has generally served me well as long as I stuck to my principles and did my own thing.
We all have some wrong-is-really-right to us, the sensitive souls among us, a bit more than usual. Hurray for us! We will be flying our freak flag high and proud, doing our own thing, listening to our hearts and reaping huge, huge benefits for all.
May we all be blessed for being ourselves, and doing that which gives us the most joy. From that joy, worlds are born.